The big day is almost here, I’m about to transition from being a working mom out of the house to being a working mom at home, and I have to admit to being a little nervous. I have hoped and prayed for this day for so long, but now that it is almost here, I noticed I was starting to feel a bit fearful.
I am about to take my full-fledged place in the realm of mompreneur, a category of a stay-at-home mom. You see, I will be a work-from-home, stay-at-home mom. A mom who supports her family (in my case, my daughter and I) with work I create in my home office. As a single mom, I admit that this felt like a pipe-dream for a really long time.
From pipe dream to reality!
After my divorce and with my four-month-old in my arms, I had to figure out what Life 2.0 might look like. It was an interesting time. It was then that I really began to work more on my blog. Even though the blog grew a little, I didn’t really have a plan, so it was not able to provide enough income to cover living expenses for my daughter and me so, I had to go out and get a job.
Thankfully I had a lot of family support around me, and I was able to have my daughter be with family while I headed out to earn a living. But every day there was a pang of sadness in my heart because I had always dreamed of being a stay-at-home mom.
Fast forward a few years, and now my blog and the products that have sprung from it are earning me enough that I am replacing the income I earned outside the home, with the income I can generate from here.
How did I get here?
To get to this place I had to work HARD. Like harder than I ever thought I could. I basically worked two full-time jobs for the last couple of years. I would work, then come home and be “mommy” for a few hours, and then work very late into the night on the blog – every single day. There was no time off, and I’ll admit to being a bit cranky more than once.
Honestly, it was a grueling schedule to keep, but I had a belief that this “dream” of earning enough to stay home might just be possible, so it was worth it to me to give it my ALL. I was reading and studying what other work-from-home moms were doing, and I knew if they could do it, I could too.
FEAR rears its ugly head!
And while there were hurdles, setbacks, highs, and lows, I now find myself at the threshold of this transition. And it’s interesting to greet feelings of fear and anxiety in this place. I expected relief, joy, maybe even a ticker-tape-parade, but instead there are some old, familiar giants in my path.
Thankfully, God is sending me help to answer these obstacles, and I want to share it with you too.
FEAR. There is an acronym for fear that I find helpful. It is: False Evidence Appearing Real. “Fear” in the form of “what ifs” loves to show up and rain on our parade. I have learned that you have to battle fear with TRUTH.
In my case, I have been praying and praying for God to make a way for me to make this change, and I’ve been pairing hard work with my prayers. I’ve been doing my part so that God could do His.
I had to work two jobs simultaneously until the 2nd job was earning me enough to be able to quit the other.
So now, when fear wants to show up and try to scare me with ideas like: “What if the blog stops earning the money that it’s making?” My answer has to be that I will do what God leads me to do. If this well dries up, He will provide another. It might be another stay at home job, or another work outside home job or this blog could take off to even higher levels than I ever dreamed of!
No matter what, I can’t live my life according to these what if scenarios. I am done with scarcity mindsets. God is good, and He has good plans!
FREEDOM FROM WORRY!
Instead of worrying and fretting, I have decided to be purposeful. I will:
Pray + Make a Plan + Present it to God…Wait for His Guidance… and then TRUST HIM + Focus on Him + Take Steps!
If God wants me on a different course, He’ll tell me because I’m asking Him.
I have learned that FEAR is not simply an obstacle, it is an OPPORTUNITY! I can choose to give up, or I can choose to press on. If I give into fear and let it beat me, I will stay in a situation that will slowly sink me into a pit of regret.
On the other hand, if I step out – despite the fear – if I “Do It Afraid!” I am breaking through into a promised land of possibility. Yes, I am venturing into the unknown, but with that comes the opportunity for even greater reward.
There is a risk, but it is mostly of looking foolish. And when I stop and think about it, while I’m not setting out with that goal in mind, I know that if that happened, I would be OK. I’d rather risk looking foolish and have no regrets and possibly even achieve my dreams – then never even give it a try.
Skip the UNWORTHY trap
Another lie that fear tries to lay at my feet is the “I’m not worthy” of this big opportunity lie. Do you ever battle that too? It can come in many forms but it all boils down to trying to make you feel not good enough – it might be about your skills, your style, or more concrete things like debt or spending habits.
I know I tend to be a shopper, and thrifty though I may be, I know I will have to be more frugal than usual in this next chapter. And honestly that level of self-discipline can be a bit intimidating. But I know that with God’s help He will guide me. And I can let myself off of the “worthy/unworthy” hook because guess what? I’m NOT worthy! No one is! Only Jesus. And thankfully He has redeemed me and you. So when I feel the unworthy lie begin to whisper in my ear, I can simply say in response, “You’re so right, I’m not worthy, and I don’t have to fight that fight because Jesus already did! I am His and so thankful that He has saved me! And my future is in His hands.”
Is Fear Holding You Back?
Change is hard, even good changes, because it’s different. It’s unknown. So don’t be shocked when you are stepping out, and you begin to feel a bit of anxiety.
If you are doing what God has made you to do, you WILL face opposition, so be prepared.
Some fear might actually mean you are on the RIGHT course. I hope you will challenge the fears in your life with the TRUTH. And then, if you see that they are indeed “False Evidence Appearing Real” that you will step boldly into your new future – I believe that there is life overflowing with joy and purpose waiting for us if we will only believe and step out!
Want a little extra inspiration for your journey? Here are a few encouraging books that you might enjoy. If you don’t know what your dream is, they will help you find it, and if like me your on your journey towards your dream, they will fortify and encourage you!
#1 – The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson
#2 – Live the Life You Love by Barbara Sher
#3 – It’s Only too Late if You Don’t Start Now! by Barbara Sher
I’d love to hear your journey of facing fears and pursuing your dreams despite the roadblocks. And if you have read any books that you found particularly helpful I’d love to know about those too! Please share your story in the comments below!!